Unhappy? Change Your Gratitude Attitude

By Barbara Burke, November 21st, 2011
 
 Happy people put out more positive energy. You can’t see it, but other people feel it. When they feel it, they respond to you in a positive way.” From my book, The Napkin, The Melon & The Monkey
When you are feeling overwhelmed by life, take a moment during your day to appreciate what you have. A research (McCollough, Emmons 2003) study proved that an attitude of gratitude had a positive impact on our emotional well-being and overall happiness. In this study, a group of students kept a journal of daily events that were unpleasant. A second group wrote down those things for which they were grateful. They found that the gratitude group had “… higher levels of the positive states of alertness, enthusiasm, determination, attentiveness and energy.”
It is interesting to note that this study also found that people who take time to deliberately acknowledge their gratitude were more likely to feel loved, and that other people reciprocated with their own kindness.Also, grateful people were grateful regardless of whether pleasant events happened in their day or not.  In other words, they did not just have moments of gratefulness, but grateful attitudes.

3 Tips for Cultivating an Attitude of Gratitude

1. Keep an Abundance Journal.
Have  a small notebook handy (on your bedside table, at your desk at work, in your purse or backpack) and write down specific things in your life that you are thankful for. When you are feeling low, you can use your journal to remind you that life isn’t so bad after all.

2. Gratitude Rock.
Find a smooth rock or stone that feels good in your hand and keep it handy. Put it on your desk or carry it in your bag.  When you touch the rock pause for a moment to say “Thank you” for something in your life (friends, family, possessions, a beautiful day, good health, etc.) you are grateful for.

3. Create an Abundance Ritual.
My personal reminder to be grateful is a beautiful old oak tree in the Carleton College Arboretum close to where I live.  Every day when I am out for my run I stop at my “abundance tree” to express my gratitude for all the wonderful things in my life. As I touch the bark (in the same place every time), I feel my connection to the Earth and am reminded of my connection to all living things.

This week cultivate your own attitude of gratitude. It costs nothing and is a gift that keeps on giving. Happy Thanksgiving!

Barbara Burke  

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How a New Chair Created a New Attitude

By Barbara Burke, November 8th, 2011


Sometimes it’s the little things that mean the most to your employees.

Over the last few months I’ve had the opportunity to conduct leadership training for a great group of supervisors. I started the training process as I always do, with conducting an employee engagement survey for each supervisor.

The survey results for several of the supervisors revealed that the “command and control” management style they had relied on for years was not working. A significant number of employees complained of being treated like children, not being listened to, and generally feeling devalued. It was clear that if these supervisors were going to improve employee engagement they had to change their approach.

The content of the first Workshop in June focused on training the supervisors to be more flexible, to listen more and talk less, and to deploy a more personalized coaching approach tailored to the needs of each employee. The session ended with practicing applying the participatory style of management in various situations.

Fast forward three months to the second employee engagement survey, the purpose of which was to gauge the supervisors’ progress. I consider a 10% improvement between the first and second survey to be very good. With this group I thought we’d be lucky to see a 5% improvement. That’s why I was astonished when the survey showed a whopping 16% across the board improvement over the first survey.

As you can imagine, when the supervisors got together for our second Workshop in September, they were very proud of themselves. As we went around the room, each supervisor got to brag about how they had used what they learned and the positive impact it had on their employees’ willingness to be fully engaged.

It was Zeke, one of the younger supervisors, who put things in perspective. He reported that his more open approach was well received by his team. But, what really turned their attitudes around was when he finally replaced their old, broken down chairs (they’d been griping about for years) with brand new, ergonomic office chairs. He said, “I guess that sometimes it’s the little things that make the biggest difference.”

I wrote those words on the whiteboard. A good reminder for all of us.

Make it a great week. Be the change.

Barbara Burke  

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